hi folks! long time no update! =)
over thanksgiving, i had a funny conversation with my mom and my sister. (all the men of the family had fallen asleep... typical...)
anyway, my mom was asking me about whether we fight with our respective men (me and my bf, my sister and her hubby). and of course, we agreed that we all fight. so then my mom was curious to know what we all fight about b/c she felt like she and my dad fight about the most annoying things.
so then, she got really close to us and started telling us about one of the fights they frequently had. by the way she put her face close to ours, i couldn't help but think, oh man, this must be a big one.
here's what she said loosely translated into english:
"sometimes, at night, when your dad and i are watching tv, when the show goes to commercial, he takes the remote and starts flipping channels! and most of the time, i'm okay with it, but he flips through it SOOO fast! it makes me dizzy! so then i say, honey! why can't you just leave it on the same channel? why do you have to flip so much?!" it drives me crazy!!"
my mom then looks to me and my sister for sympathy, and we burst into laughter! =D i was totally expecting some kind of big issue, and here it is - the age-old remote-control argument. hahaha! my sister and i then tried to explain to my mom about how this is a very common argument that married ppl have. it's not just her - but everyone! so many tv shows parody this common argument and that it's just comical to see her complain about it!
sigh. as i later lay in my bed thinking about that funny conversation, it made me wonder - why did my mom not know that this was such a common argument for married couples? and i realized that it's b/c my mom doesn't really have girlfriends to share this kind of stuff with. (if you're asking why, it's a long explanation regarding the inability of 1st generation korean people to be vulnerable with each other.) but anyway, it made me realize how important it is for us to have friends and especially friends who are in similar life stages as us. there are plenty of times when i feel like i'm the only person going through my struggles, and then bam, as soon as i share it, i will probably find someone who's gone through it, and can help me to know i'm not alone, and perfectly normal. we really need community and friends. no man is an island. and when we end up on an island by ourselves, hurry up and go find some friends or else you'll never survive.
man, can't believe thanksgiving has come and gone already. i feel like i was looking forward to it for so long, and now it is already past. oyy. oh well... must look forward to christmas now! =) bye now!
